The Spirit of Carol's Mom

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Another message, add another wake. Welcome to episode 70 of My True Go Stories. Last week I talked about delivering a message to someone at a wake and I also expressed how that is really not a good idea to do, to give somebody who's grieving someone who just passed away, to give them a bunch of information that they didn't ask for. So in the story last week, the person asked me if the spirit of her father was there and I was able to say yes and deliver a message, although in the future I don't know if I would do that because I really should not give messages at wakes. But in the beginning of my mediumship, I felt that I had to deliver all information and so I delivered information when it was not necessarily appropriate.

So in this week's episode, I'm going to tell another story. About a time I delivered a message at a wake, which may not necessarily be the best idea. However, in this story, the living person did not ask me the spirit of the deceased, asked me, so again, that's not necessarily the right thing to do, but this is a story of when I did deliver a message at a wake. A friend of mine who I'm going to call Carol, I always change the names so I'm calling her Carol in this episode. She was not the closest friend, but we were fairly close and we had coffee and we occasionally talked on the phone and we even went dancing together three times.

So she was a pretty good friend. And during our friendship, her mother had been ill. It was a prolonged illness and my friend Carol was the primary caretaker for her mother. She didn't have a brother in town, but I guess between the two of them, they were the primary caretakers. And eventually after this long illness, my friend Carol's mother passed away.

So I found out this information that Carol's mother had passed away and I don't remember how I found out where the wake was. If Carol herself told me, but oftentimes these things are sort of announced in the community somehow, and this was before social media, so I heard from a friend or something like that where the wake was. So I knew where it was, but I also had an appointment that day that I had to go to. So I went to the appointment and I was in the waiting room. And while I was waiting, I started to sense a presence in this room.

Now this particular waiting room was in an old brownstone, which was probably, you know, obviously over a hundred years old, and it had a lot of history. It must have had a lot of history, I don't know. All those brownstones have a lot of history. And I often felt presence while I was in this particular waiting room. But this one was different.

It was very insistent. It wasn't just like someone in the corner. It was insistent. And this presence was trying to get my attention and trying to say something to me. So at one point, I don't know why, but I was standing.

It wasn't time for me to go in yet. I was early. And I was standing at one corner of the room. And I decided to focus and find out who is this spirit. Now I knew that the wake for Carol's mother was going on at this time, but you know, there are many hours that you can come by.

So I had a plan to go to the wake after this appointment. You know, after I went home and dropped off my stuff and changed into a decent outfit and then head out to the wake. So that was out there. That intention was out there that I was going to go. So I focused in on who this spirit was.

And I was on the side of the room. And the spirit was in the middle of the room. And when I really focused and figured out who it was, I saw that it was a short woman. And she had a turban on her head, like a really cool, fashionable turban on her head. And she was staring at me.

And when I really focused, she was gesturing at me. She was gesturing with her hands open as if she was asking me to listen to her. And so I said, okay. What do you want me to know? And she said to me, when are you coming?

When are you coming? And I said, well, when am I coming? Where am I coming? And then she said, when are you coming? Because she keeps saying, I'm not there, but I am there.

And I, what? What kind of a message is that? I had no idea what it meant. So I had heard this. The spirit didn't go away.

The spirit remained there, imploring me with her hands and saying, when are you coming? When are you coming? I realized from the turban and the things that Carol had described to me about her mother and how her mother dressed that this was the spirit of Carol's mother. And somehow this spirit knew, I mean, it's the other side. So I'm sure information is much easier to get on the other side than it is in pre-social media, New York City.

And she knew that I had plans to come to the wake. And the thing about, she keeps saying, I'm not there and I'm there. I did not know what that meant. But I said to the spirit, after I figured out who she was and where it was that she wanted me to go, I said, I'm going to finish here and I will be there around five o'clock. And this seemed to be satisfactory to the spirit because she just disappeared.

I said, I'll be there around five o'clock and she vanished. So I went into my appointment. I came out of the appointment and I headed home and I headed home with a much bigger sense of urgency than I had before. Because you know, the wake goes from like all the way till 7 p.m. But I was like, oh, I have to get over there.

I promised this spirit that I would get over there. So I went home and I changed into a halfway decent outfit, you know, black skirt and a black tank top. And I had like this nice sweater and some flats with black tight. I don't know why I described my outfit to you, but I still remember the outfit, which is why I'm describing it. So I changed, maybe I ate something I don't know.

And then I got in the car and I headed to the wake. The wake was not in my immediate neighborhood. It was in another neighborhood. So I had a drive there and they had a parking lot, which is so awesome. So I was able to put my car into the parking lot and go into the wake.

As far as I remember, there was just one wake at a time going on in this funeral home. And I could hear, as I walked up the stairs and passed the receptionist, I could hear the din of family and friends and everybody talking. And I followed the din and I went down this hallway and I made a right into the funeral parlor room. And there up at the front of the room, I saw Carol's mother laid out in the casket and she was short. I had never met her.

She was short and she was wearing some sort of beautiful dress and she had a turban on her head. So I was like, okay, this is definitely her, which I already knew. But you know, it's nice to get little confirmations like that. And I was like, okay, so I'm here. And I was continuing to think about the other part of what she had said to me besides, when are you coming?

But she keeps saying, I'm not there, but I'm there. And so I knew a couple people, I didn't know that many people, but I knew a couple people and I said hello to them. And then I made my way up to the front and there is Carol. And I came over to Carol who I had not seen since her mother passed and I said, hi, Carol, and you know the usual, I'm so sorry about your mom. And Carol said to me, thank you for coming and she said, but you know, my mom is in a better place now.

And right as she said that, she's in a better place now. The spirit of Carol's mom appeared and she said, you see, you see, she's saying, I'm not here, but I'm right here. So I said, oh, okay. Carol is saying her mom is not here, she's in a better place. And Carol's mom's spirit is lingering around and furiated by this because she is there.

And she didn't want Carol to say that anymore. So we talked a little bit about how her mother had passed, which had been obviously in the last few days. And she had been very sick and she was indeed out of pain and all those things that you say. And my friend Carol, she knows about me. She knows I'm a medium.

She has participated even in a few little rituals of mine. So I was still new at it though. It was still a new thing in my life. And I felt that I had to deliver all messages immediately, which I don't do anymore. But at the time, that's where I was at.

And there was the spirit of Carol's mother saying, you see, you see, she's saying, I'm not here and I'm here. And it was obviously very plain that Carol's mom wanted Carol to know that she is there, that she, her mother, is there. So I decided to tell Carol. And I don't remember exactly how I started. But Carol did say again, I'm so happy she's in a better place and the spirit of her mom became furious again.

And I said, actually, Carol, she may be in a better place, but she is actually right here. And I think she wants you to talk to her. And I sort of looked over at the spirit. I was like, yeah, you want her to talk to you. Yes, that's what I want, said the spirit.

So I said to Carol, okay, she wants you to talk to her. And then we went and we stood by the casket. The mom spirit was actually standing at the end of the casket. And Carol decided to talk to the body in the casket, which was fine. And she just started saying all these beautiful things about, you know, mom, I'm going to miss you so much.

And I'm so glad I was able to be there for you. And it was really moving what she was saying. And, you know, she was crying. And I put my arm around her while she was talking. And her brother saw that.

He was sitting in the front row of the chairs, which is what family does. And he stood up and he came over. And he put his arm around her too. He didn't know what was going on. And I was smart enough to not announce to him, oh, she's talking to the spirit of her mother because I'm a medium and I'm like, I at least knew not to do that.

So she really communicated with her mom. And as she said all these things about, I'm so glad we were able to spend these last times together and I'm going to miss you and all that. The spirit of Carol's mom, who was standing at the end of the casket, she gradually became more and more relaxed and satisfied. And Carol said, mom, I understand that you're here and I'm not going to say that you're not here anymore, which was great because that was really all Carol's mom's spirit wanted, was a little bit of communication and the acknowledgement that she was indeed there. And for a spirit that must have been very frustrating to be there with all your friends and family and have them say she's not here because she was there.

I don't know what happened after that. I feel that after Carol's mother's spirit relaxed, she became less present. I knew other people there and I talked with them and I met other family members and I don't even know if I said goodbye to Carol. Of course I signed the register and Carol was very busy with all the people that were there. So I had done what her mother's spirit had asked me to do.

And I paid my respects, signed the register, and then I just headed out to the parking lot and drove home. A few weeks later, a mutual friend of me and Carol's said, so I heard that you were communicating with the spirit of Carol's mother at the wake and you told Carol about it and I said, oh yeah, that was a little embarrassed because this is not someone that I had told about me being a medium and I guess obviously Carol had told her and this mutual friend of me and Carol's said, yeah, I wouldn't like it if you did that to me. And I was really nervous and I said, oh no, was she upset? Did she say something and my other friend, our mutual friend said, no, she didn't say anything, but I just wouldn't like that if you did that to me. So I started to spiral like, oh maybe she did say something, maybe I shouldn't have done that.

This is when I started to get a hint, you're not supposed to say things at people's wakes. So I am grateful to that mutual friend of ours for at least beginning my journey into discretion and taking care with what I tell when. It was a little time before I saw Carol again and when I saw her, I said, listen, was that okay? What I told you about your mom, I said, I'm really sorry, I didn't mean to launch that on you. And I alluded to that, her mother's spirit had been very insistent that I tell her.

And Carol said, no, I was so grateful to have that last bit of communication with my mom. And I'm very grateful that you told me that she was there. So maybe this particular message delivering session was meant to be in the period of time before I was aware of not blurting things out at wakes. Maybe for the safety of Carol's mom's spirit, it was important that she communicate with her at that wake in order for her to ascend. I don't really know, but that's what I like to think.

That the times that I delivered messages at wakes, that it was meant to be, and it was not harmful. I don't do it anymore because the message has become plain, that that is no longer a thing that I can do. But I'm glad that I did. And I'm glad that Carol and her mom got to communicate one last time. And I hope that the spirit of Carol's mom has ascended happily.

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